When you’re walking through a hard season in your life, the word joy probably doesn’t come to mind very often. Or, much at all. We all have been through hard seasons in life whether it’s a death, unexpected event, or undertaking a series of arduous events.
We have all been there.
I have, and am currently there. I am walking through this hard season trying my best to support others who walk alongside me, facing their own battles. I have found that during a challenging time, it can be almost impossible not to cling to uncertainties, and cling to the negative.
It’s called a hard season for a reason.
I don’t care what self-help book tells you….you must allow yourself the space to process, feel, and grieve whatever thing is troubling you. If you never give yourself the opportunity, it becomes repressed and that’s a whole other topic of discussion.
During that hard season, in the thick of it, you must find some semblance of joy.
Maybe it’s not in the thick of it for you, maybe the joy comes before, in between or after. To each their own. So, how do we do that? stay with me sister.
+Reflect & Dig deep
Reflection is so important… though sometimes we’re all so busy with our chaotic lives, we sometimes forget to slow down and truly reflect. If you’re stuck in a hard season, and you’re feeling like you can’t find your joy, it’s time to reflect. Start by asking yourself:
What brings me joy?
What fuels my soul?
How can I add more happiness into my day?
What can I eliminate from my day, that will help me during this season?
You MUST question yourself, your attitude and figure out how to support yourself during this time.
+Schedule it in
Now that you’ve successfully questioned the heck outta yourself, it’s time to get to work. When we’re passing through a hard season in life, and we aren’t necessarily motivated to take care of ourselves or do things, it’s so important to do them. The quickest way to get back to feeling like yourself, is to do the things you enjoy. Book a workout session, a manicure, or maybe a spa day. If you haven’t seen your girlfriends in awhile, schedule a coffee or lunch date. Give yourself little bits of joy to look forward to. I find regardless of what’s troubling me, scheduling something to look forward to will help me shift my focus, and allow me to focus on positives, rather than the negative.
+Form a gratitude list
When we’ve entered a hard season, it can be tough not to stay stuck in the negative. As hard as it can be, sometimes we must check ourselves. Checking in, and really asking yourself what you need in this time, is key. Each morning, regardless of what’s on my agenda, I always carve out time to journal. I know journaling first thing can seem odd, but it’s helpful to make lists, and figure out what to tackle first. A morning brain-dump is also pretty helpful, to say the least. Something I do each morning, is grab my gratitude journal. You don’t need a special gratitude journal to do this practice, just a pen and paper. All you need is ten minutes, and an open mind. It may be cheesy, but list as many things as you can think of, that you are truly grateful for. Gratitude lists always help me shift my focus back to the positive, especially when I’m beginning to think of the negative. When you stop and really focus on what you’re grateful for, you automatically put yourself into a better mindset.
What do you do when you’re in a hard season in life? How do you help yourself? Share with me in the comments below!