When I began thinking about welcoming the New Year, and that 2018 was already coming to a close, I felt excited. Excited – because it’s a possibility of a fresh start. What do I mean by this? When a new year rolls around, we can decide to keep living and truckin’ along, or we can decide to pause, and reflect on the past year. Reflection is key to uncovering what needs changing in our day to day lives. It’s a time to revaluate what’s working in our lives, and what… may need some adjustment. And while reflection may time some time, it is necessary in order to grow as a person. Today, I’m going to be sharing with you all just a handful of things I believe we all should let go of, in the new year.
You can either be your own worst critic, or your biggest cheerleader. The way you speak to yourself, even if you’re not actually talking aloud, can either be very damaging or highly encouraging. When you look in the mirror, a hundred thoughts can pop up into your head – but it’s so important to take note of what you’re thinking about yourself. If you have a negative thought, combat it with a positive. Whenever a bad thought pops up, squash it in it’s tracks. We are never going to get to where we want in life with a head full of negative thoughts. Choose to be intentional, and positive with your thoughts about yourself, and you will be bound to live a happier life in 2019.
I imagine there are so many beautiful things you want out of this life. It could be a killer career in fashion, a dream vacation in Maui, a husband, a family, to model…whatever it is, are you taking the correct steps to make these dreams a reality? So many of us have many goals, but we assume we are not “worthy” of attaining what we want. So we then make excuses, and tell ourselves why we can’t have all of these things we truly want. We fill our heads with lies about how we don’t deserve our dream careers, or that vacay in Maui, so we simply allow fear to take over, and quit before we’ve even started. It’s so important to dream, and to have goals, but what’s even more important? To take the appropriate steps of achieving your goals/aspirations in life, without allowing fear to take over. Instead of letting fear hold you back from living life on your own terms, form a solid plan, and map out exactly how you’re going to make your dream life a reality.
Trust me on this, go on your Instagram/Facebook and unfollow every account that makes you feel bad about yourself. When you find yourself scrolling, comparing, and judging: just stop. Comparing your life to another persons is just going to make you feel bad. The only good thing about jealousy? it can give you an insight on what you truly want out of life. For example, you follow a girl living beside the ocean, she’s beautiful, married with a gorgeous home, with a kickass wardrobe. Start to dissect what makes you feel jealous, and question it. Do you have a home of your own? Do you dream of a house on the ocean? Are you longing to find your soulmate? Do you want a better wardrobe? Eventually, you will get to the surface of the issue. When you find what you long for, then you can make a plan to get what you want out of life. Playing the comparison game is usually just flat out toxic. It can rob you from the joy that is your own life. This year, make it a priority to practice gratitude, and be thankful for what you have.
Grab a pen and paper, and write down all of the qualities you wish to have out of a friend. Do you find yourself resonating with the qualities you’ve listed? You may find that some of these qualities match who you are, and who you surround yourself with. It’s so important to take stock of your relationships, especially the ones closest to you. Make sure these people are supportive, inspiring, highly encouraging. If these relationships leave you feeling bad about yourself, or just simply bring you down, maybe it’s time to make changes, and distance yourself from them, or cut the cord completely.It's time to protect your space, sanity and peace of mind in 2019. Click To Tweet
You know exactly the bad habits I’m talking about. Maybe it’s chewing your nails, when you’re really anxious. Or it could be spending too much time on your phone when you should be working. Whatever bad habit you know you have, and you’re keeping around, make the effort to make changes in your life. Bad habits can rob you of precious time and energy. Think about how much more time you’ll have when you cut out bad or negative habits out of your life. Making that conscious effort to form new, healthier habits will set you up for success. Whatever your circumstances, or where you’re at in life, you CAN break bad habits, and ditch toxic relationships and become a healthier, happier version of yourself.
I challenge you all to take some time to reflect on what YOU need to let go of, when walking into this New Year. If you’re brave enough, share with me in the comments below!