The biggest realization I’ve come to terms with, as of late? You’re allowed to live life on your own terms, regardless of a timeline. You don’t have to be married with kids by 25, or have xyz accomplished before you turn 30. It simply isn’t true. The societal pressures we face nowadays (thank you social media) are insane. We live in a world where we’re all constantly bombarded with engagement announcements, and gender reveals, which can often times leave us feeling the pressure. The pressure to get on with our lives. To accomplish more, rush around to find the perfect man to marry and settle down, ya know, the whole nine yards.
It’s up to you to define your own life. To decide what you will do with this one precious life.
Recently, I was looking through my social media feed on Instagram, and stumbled upon a picture of myself, with a very empowering message I wrote several years ago…
“Social media is a breeding ground for comparision, but it doesn’t have to be. Learn to appreciate others successes, and celebrate with them, versus playing the comparison game. No one’s successes are taking away from yours. Own and celebrate YOUR victories-big and small. It’s so important. When you find youtself fixating on someone elses shit, check yourself.”
That message I had wrote that surprised me. It woke me up, and I had realized I had actually fallen back into the “comparison” game. It’s such an easy thing to do. You find yourself perusing your social media feed, and you’re hit with a million thoughts:
‘When will I find my dream house?”
“Will I have a successful career before age 30?”
“When the heck should I have babies? “
“Why doesn’t my life look theirs?”
In our every day lives there is so much pressure. To have children, to get married, to have that successful career.Social media is a breeding ground for comparision, but it doesn't have to be. Learn to appreciate others successes, and celebrate with them, versus playing the comparison game. No one's successes are taking away from yours. Click To Tweet
But there are truly no “timelines” in life. There is no right or wrong way to obtain the things we want out of life. If you want to go back to school at 25, great, go for it. If you decide you aren’t ready for kids until you hit your mid-thirties, that too, is okay. There is no perfect timeline. You’re aloud to live your life on your own terms, despite societal pressures we all face day in and day out. You have the freedom to do what matters most to you. The next time you find yourself feeling pressure to live according to a timeline, just remember you are in the drivers seat of your own life.
What does living life on your terms mean to you? Share with me in the comments below!